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  Wash Park Campus
Sunday 11/19 - Saturday 11/25
Pure Pleasure 1366 x 427
Pure Desire: Intimacy with God in Marriage
by Deacon Dennis Lawson Sr. Ph.D.

(15 min)
If your group has more than 7 people, you're encouraged to split into men's and women's groups for "Warm Ups". Also, it often works better to go around the circle three times instead of each person having to answer all three questions at once.
  1. Share your high moment and low moment of the week.
  2. Describe a couple who you perceive have a good relationship in marriage.
  3. Why do you consider this to be a good marriage?
  4. Do you have any God moments to share from this past week?

Large Group Prayer (10 min)
  • Take turns praying (1) Thanksgivings, (2) for each other's needs, and (3) for our community.
    • Click here for creative ideas on how to pray as a group.

Study Questions (35 min)
About the Sermon
  1. Read Genesis 2:21-24; Ephesians 5:28-33; Matthew 19:4-6
    1. What is the common theme from the readings this week?
    2. Based on Adam’s response from the Genesis reading, what should be a man’s attitude to his wife?
    3. Paul’s letter to the Ephesians tells men how they should treat their wives, what is you response to this as a man? As a woman?

A Deeper look
  1. Loving your wife as yourself, is this easy to do?
    1. Why or why not?
    2. What can we do as a husband to cultivate this attitude?
    3.  What can we do as a wife to cultivate this attitude?
  2. How can you increase intimacy with your spouse?
  3. How can we nurture this attitude as a single person in our relationships?

Life Application
  1. Are there couples that you look up to that model this attitude for you, if so what is it that they do that causes you to look up to them?
    1. Have you considered asking a couple to mentor you in your relationship?
    2. What would you look for in a couple to mentor you?

    Discipleship Trios (25 min)

    The goal is to have intentional time to share your journey with others.  Break into same gender groups of three and move to seperate spaces. If numbers necessitate flexibility, form groups of 2 instead.
    • Review the listener committments if you haven't done so in a while.
    • The goal is not to pressure others into sharing more than they want to, or to give unsolicited advice, but to ask others how God is stretching them, be challenged by God's Word together, ask what others are planning to do about their growth areas, and ask how you can support them!

    Share Your Journey:
    What have you heard from God through your Life Journal / Bible readings this week?  What's an area of your life in which you know you need to repent and/or grow?

    • When you hear a confession, you're encouraged to speak God's forgiveness!
    • If you feel one of your group members is blind to something, (1) think about whether or not you're the right person to bring it up, (2) ask permission to share something, (3) phrase it as a question.

    Discipleship Trio Prayer Time
    • Share: Tell us what connections you're building and spiritual conversations you're having with non-believing friends.
    • Pray for non-believers in your lives by name: ___________________.
    • Pray for each other.

    Optional Worship Song (+5 min)

    1. If you'd like, you can sing a worship song as a group. Don't have a musician? Sing along to a lyric video:
      1. Advent/Christmas songs can be found at

    Serve Our City

    1. Has your group planned an opportunity to serve our city for this semester? Click Here for a list of Service Ideas!


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